Wedding night first time sex- is it alright for me to wait or is it wrong?

April 20th, 2011

I am waiting til my wedding night to have sex. But I have one problem

Is it alright for me to wait or is it wrong for me to have sex before I get married? I am 21 but plan getting married once college is over with.

11 Responses to “Wedding night first time sex- is it alright for me to wait or is it wrong?”

  1. joinme4coffee says:

    That’s a decision that way too personal to have strangers make for you. Follow your heart and mind.

  2. seamstress says:

    This is a personal choice only you can decide for yourself.

    If you are currently engaged to be married and currently are planning on “getting married once college is over with”, then you are already in a committed relationship and you may want to have sex with your fiance before marriage. But, if you do not have a commitment with a man as of yet, then no, I think you would be making a mistake because you seem trepidatious about this in the first place.

  3. big puffy shoes says:

    I guess the question is why are you waiting? If you’re afraid of a god, remain pure. if not, do what you want.

  4. Wendy Sams says:

    Wait!! There are ALOT of reasons for this, but no matter what your guy says he will respect you more for it. When I was in high school and beyond guys absolutely loved me and respected me because I would not let them touch me. Your marriage will be a lot better as a result of it.

  5. Carpe says:

    No its not wrong at all!! I can promise you that your husband wil be a lucky man! And guys will pressure yu into it I can also promise ou that too! An I might get called a faggot for saying this but if you and your husband wait then you guys will have somehing really special together. Hell yes it will be hard but you got to think- how would you feel knowing that your husband has had sex with other women? I don’t know about you but just THINKING about my future wife having sex with other guys gets me so pissed off you wouldn’t believe!!!! Yes I am rather protective…. ok I’m extremely protective haha good luck!

  6. Treorai says:

    Ah, don’t you love the smell of opinions. Just like butts; everyone has one and they all stink.

    Well, first of all, you can’t go wrong if you wait, can you?

    Now onto the nonsense: It’s debatable and opinion whether or not sex before marriage is right or wrong. If you’re religious, it’s generally a “no-no”. If you’re not, then it’s generally a “doesn’t matter.” Personally, (Here comes my “butt”) I think it’s probably best to wait, but if you truly love the person and believe with full and complete confidence you’ll marry (for instance, you’re engaged,) I have a tad bit of difficulty seeing the problem. But, still, waiting does no harm and it’s safer anyway, isn’t it?

    Good luck.

  7. eharrah1 says:

    The only person that can answer that question is you. In today’s society, there is nothing wrong with sex before marriage. The question is, is it against your religion and your beliefs? Do you have a person you are involved with already? Or is this just a blanket questiion for anybody to have sex with?

  8. Loving Life Now says:

    this is a very personal decision based on your belief system and valves..you know what is right for you to do..

  9. almarj70 says:

    You neither need to explain nor justify your choice here. What you choose to do with your body is your decision and your decision alone. It’s neither right nor wrong, it’s what you have decided to do.

  10. Karen says:

    Sex was created by God for the institution of marriage. When you honor that, you walk in favor of God. If you’re not religious, it is still a good thing because it shows that the marrige vow means a lot to you. These days, marriage has lost its sanctity.

  11. Shannon says:

    Neither decision is wrong. It’s up to you to decide. All I advise is waiting for the right person. But you don’t necessarily have to wait until you’re married.

    FH and I are waiting til the wedding night. That’s a decision we made together. I almost had sex with my previous boyfriend but I’m so glad I didn’t because he wasn’t the one for me.

    In the end it’s up to you, we can’t decide for you. Good luck!

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