Wedding speeches? What are they?

July 6th, 2011

I’ve seen people on Yahoo Answers talk about the maid of honor and the best man giving “speeches” at weddings. I’ve been to dozens of weddings and have stood as either a bestman or a groomsmen in 8 in the past 2 years and I’ve NEVER had to give a speech or have heard anyone else give a speech. Are you all talking about toasting the married couple? Or is the wedding speech some sort of Yankee tradition?

4 Responses to “Wedding speeches? What are they?”

  1. planner says:

    actually, the wedding speeches are an english tradition which many amercians also do. they are normally what we americans call toasts though. but in many social circles, the maid of honor and the best man are required to say a few more words than just drinking a toast to the bride and groom. they normally include some funny joke or memory of the couple or individuals and something a little sentimental, and the toast. wedding speeches are only about 1 and1/2 to 3 minutes long, but lots of people are nervous about having to do them so it makes them sound like a big deal.

  2. Because I Said So says:

    If the bride and groom don’t ask you to make a toast, then you don’t have to. Speech & toast are the same thing but no one can get up at the reception and randomly speak unless asked in advance by the bride and groom.

  3. Messykatt says:

    I agree with you. Every wedding I’ve been to (and it’s quite a few) certain people give toasts, but never a speech. And then everyone doing it for the first time panics over having to give a “speech”, when most of them last well under a minute.

  4. Jessica says:

    The “speech” is the toast. Some just put more pressure on it so they don’t get up in front of a crowded room and look like an idiot not knowing what to say.

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Wedding speeches? What are they?

July 6th, 2011

I’ve seen people on Yahoo Answers talk about the maid of honor and the best man giving “speeches” at weddings. I’ve been to dozens of weddings and have stood as either a bestman or a groomsmen in 8 in the past 2 years and I’ve NEVER had to give a speech or have heard anyone else give a speech. Are you all talking about toasting the married couple? Or is the wedding speech some sort of Yankee tradition?

4 Responses to “Wedding speeches? What are they?”

  1. planner says:

    actually, the wedding speeches are an english tradition which many amercians also do. they are normally what we americans call toasts though. but in many social circles, the maid of honor and the best man are required to say a few more words than just drinking a toast to the bride and groom. they normally include some funny joke or memory of the couple or individuals and something a little sentimental, and the toast. wedding speeches are only about 1 and1/2 to 3 minutes long, but lots of people are nervous about having to do them so it makes them sound like a big deal.

  2. Because I Said So says:

    If the bride and groom don’t ask you to make a toast, then you don’t have to. Speech & toast are the same thing but no one can get up at the reception and randomly speak unless asked in advance by the bride and groom.

  3. Messykatt says:

    I agree with you. Every wedding I’ve been to (and it’s quite a few) certain people give toasts, but never a speech. And then everyone doing it for the first time panics over having to give a “speech”, when most of them last well under a minute.

  4. Jessica says:

    The “speech” is the toast. Some just put more pressure on it so they don’t get up in front of a crowded room and look like an idiot not knowing what to say.

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