Ok, so the fiance and I are both virgins…before you go all “Well thanks Kiki, TMI!” let me just get to the question.
How many people actually have sex on their wedding *night*?
My wedding is going to be an evening wedding, and the reception probably won’t end until at least midnight. My girlfriends tell me that most brides wait until the next day or so to “consumate the marriage” LOL.
Boink all day the next day
i have heard that as well… both of you are so tired that that mood just is not there….. nothing wrong with waitng till the next day… enjoy each others compnay and cuddle up
I think that since you’re virgins (me and FH are too) you’ll probably want to at least try…or sleep a few hours and then consummate the marriage. We plan on having sex on the wedding night. We are also having an evening wedding (7 with an 8-midnight reception).
hey hey, at least have sex once that night…you dont have to go all night long and wait till next day for rest of the fun but it’s your wedding night and it’s pretty much a “rule” that you have sex so that it’s a memorable occasion. it could be a 5 min quickie (since you never did it before). Is 5 min really that much?
Just do what feels right. You’ll know what to do when you are comfortable and you will be energized by LOVE!
Our wedding was over at 11pm. By the time we got to the hotel and settled in it was 1am. We both fell asleep right away and got on a plane the next morning for our honeymoon. Might sound weird but when we got there I really didn’t think that my first time should be in a hotel, rather than our own bed in our new home together. There was so much pressure lifted off our shoulders when we decided to wait until we got home. I’m glad we did. We had waited all that time anyway. Why not be in comfortable surroundings?
Wait till the wedding night and see how both of you feel, if OK go for it if not don’t ruin a special moment because
“that’s what is suppose to happen on a wedding night” crap,
you will know when it’s right, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Have a beautiful Wedding Day and may the evening be whatever you wish..
I think you’ll just have to wait & see how much alcohol is consumed at your reception! You don’t want to rush it just “cause you should” and have your first time end up a disaster…
From what I’ve heard it’s not uncommon for couples to “fall into bed” after such a big day. You can consumate in the morning ~ after all, neither of you is going anywhere!
Congratulations on your marriage!
Hah love the question! Well I have been married for almost four years, and YES most people do have sex on their wedding night. Most virgins (sorry if its TMI) are more likely to as soon as the I do’s are done, because I’m sure they are looking forward to that part of the marriage. It’s an important thing in a marriage, and most people like to get right to it. Personally, the wedding night was the only time we had sex on our honeymoon, because we were so busy with other things like sightseeing and all that jazz.
Congrats, good luck and enjoy!
In a previous life I worked night shift as a room service waiter in a big inner city hotel. As you can probably guess I served a lot of newlyweds on their wedding night. I’d say that 90% of them would check in to the hotel, get out of their uncomfortable wedding finery have hot showers, order something to eat ( they rarely had time to eat at their ow receptions) and fall in to bed. I experienced this after my own wedding. After getting no sleep the night before (too excited) and a long, emotional wedding day I had a hot shower and fell asleep in my new husbands arms.
Two of my friends did that. She was 21 and not a virgin, but he was 23 and a virgin, so they waited until their wedding night to have sex!
I think that it is such a beautiful thing if you can wait, and I really admire anyone that is able to.
I waited until I was with my (now) fiancee for a year and a half before we first had sex, and we were both virgins.
Congrats on your engagement, and I hope your wedding goes smoothly!!!
We did have wedding night nookie, but I did not think we would. We had an evening wedding as well, and by the time we got to our hotel for the night, it was after midnight. (Mind you I had been up since about 7am.) While we were both still pretty excited from the days events, we were also tired…and hungry! (With all the excitement, neither one of us really ate our dinners.) So, I took one last look at myself in my wedding gown, and my new husband went to the nearest drive-thru and brought back hamburgers and fries for us to munch on. By this time it was like 2am, and I was all for going to sleep, but my man was determined! You can figure out what happened next! And, I have to say, it was gooood! So, I say don’t try to plan what’s going to happen. Just go with the flow and enjoy!
Good for you!! Hmm, never thought of that! I’m a virgin and waiting for my wedding night as well, which should be sometime next year. I never thought about being too tired. I’m 31, and have been waiting a lonng time and I think the minute I get him alone after the wedding, I’m tearing him apart! grrr. haha.
If your reception wont end until midnight, you’ll be waiting until the day after your wedding to have sex anyway, right?
I always think that whenever I see questions like these and some brides say to do it on your wedding night because it’ll be more meaningful…LOL, I guess for some bride and grooms they’ll have to go off alone to a broom closet or something during the reception 
I say that since you’re both virgins to wait until the next morning. You’ll be well rested. And you know, the first time is always a little…awkward. You’ll both want to take your time with it. Especially for you since the first time usually hurts. I don’t imagine it being very romantic you both being tired, probably hungry, unwinding then getting down to business…I’d rather wait till morning…but that was our plan from the beginning since we’re both usually in the mood during time anyway…hows that for TMI! Sorry bout that
My fiance and I are virgins as well but we are having a mid afternoon ceremony with an early dinner buffet. I wanted to have a daytime ceremony because of the way our venue is set up, with floor to ceiling windows and light colors. My fiance, on the other hand, told me that he actually wanted a daytime reception so that we would actually have some energy and a lot of time left to finally “seal our marriage”… I’m pretty sure it will happen for us on our wedding day, he’s pretty determined lol!
LOL good question…. I don’t care how tired I am i’m never to tired to get mine…. end of story…
My fiance and I are both virgins too, and we too are most likely having an evening wedding reception.
I know for me personally, I want it to be really special and stuff so if we’re really tired and stuff then we might as well wait. We’ve waited this long… what’s one more night.
Good luck!
I’m gonna be so fast asleep after our wedding day!! You got the rest of your lives to “consummate” dont rush it when your both exhausted after a hectic day.
If your staying in a hotel… work up a hunger in the morning before ordering room service! Same again in time for lunch… then spend the afternoon opening presents and cards in bed… then maybe get dressed and venture out lol
An overwhelming majority, then during the night, in the morning…. Being tired doesn’t preclude making love as husband and wife.
Yes, we did.