planning a big, non expensive wedding lol need ideas!!?

October 26th, 2010

my fiance and i are having our wedding september 2010. we are very casual people, so its not going to be a fancy thing. garden style, on a family members lawn, groomsmen in khakhis and buttoned shirts, etc. We are inviting 110 people, most of whom will be there. we are also paying for it ourselves so we have been thinking of ways to be thrifty without looking like white trash. originally, we wanted olive garden to cater, but it would cost us like $1000 so we nixed that idea. Now we are thinking of having a bunch of grills from family members and having the wedding party, including bride and groom grilling burgers and hot dogs and chicken and stuff with lots of chips and dip on all tables. And the guests can just come up table by table and get what they want off the grills. We figure it will be relaxed, cheap dinner that gives everyone a chance to come up and see and say hi to us so we don’t miss anyone going table to table greeting guests.
I like it, he likes it, the wedding party might not be thrilled but hey they can switch out with someone if they want. lol I’m just kinda worried that the majority of people will just think we’re a bunch of cheap skates. trying not to spend over $500 on food and i know catering can be expensive and some people dont like whats served. What do you guys think? and any other suggestions for cheap massive quatities of food???
wow i joked once about having a pig roast, but we didn’t actually consider it. it sounds like a good idea, thank you!!! and if anyone knows a good website for information with pig roasts and related, I would love to check it out. again, thank you so much 🙂 🙂 🙂

12 Responses to “planning a big, non expensive wedding lol need ideas!!?”

  1. ♥Invisible Pink Unicorn♥ says:

    Why not look into doing a pig roast?

    You can get a 125# pig for around $350.00 or so then spend the rest on doing different salads, chips and dip etc..

    125# is a lot of pig and fits into your whole causal wedding theme!

    I wouldn’t do a pot luck; its in bad taste to ask your guests to bring a food dish – just my opinion

  2. Katie says:

    it’s your wedding, make it exactly how you want it, especially since you’re going to be paying for it. I think everyone understands that weddings aren’t cheap, and they won’t think any less of you for doing the whole thing your way. You could ask close family members and good friends to bring side dishes, like a pot luck type thing. You could also have some hamburger, chicken, or turkey barbecue sandwiches because you can make a lot ahead of time too.
    Congratulations and good luck planning your reception. :]

  3. britts says:

    i was going to say hog roast as well.. it super delish and ive never met a person who doesnt enjoy it!!!

    they feed alot, my sister in law had a decent sized wedding.. and they had plenty of food!!!

  4. Mommy in the making says:

    I think this is a great idea! I wouldn’t worry about what other people think, it’s your wedding. We are getting married July 2010 and inviting just as many people and we are being cheap ourselves. Now days you want to save as much money as you can 🙂 There’s nothing wrong with it. Our food will cost us for everyone rought $200 🙂 And that’s all that’s needed. We also have it set up to where people won’t even think it’s a cheap dinner, that it was actually catered. But I love your idea and think it’s wonderful!! Good luck with everything and congrats on the wedding!!!

  5. Kati says:

    Well I’m getting married in 3 weeks and this is what we are doing since we are paying for everything ourselves.
    We are having ham and turkey for sandwiches and we are getting dinner rolls instead of buns. Then we are having potato salad, coleslaw, and a pasta salad. We are also having fruit salad, bbq smokies, baked beans and plain potato chips! Some of my family is making the salads for me. I payed for most of the stuff for them (and some are just making it because they know we are paying for the wedding ourselves). And then I asked a few people to man the food for me. Just to keep it full and clean and stuff. Some are friends and some are family. You could always do pulled pork or beef for sandwiches.
    People won’t think your cheap skates, they will understand. Catering is expensive but you might be able to order some stuff from a store (Hy-Vee, Sam’s Club, Walmart, or something like that). And if it was me, I wouldn’t ask your bridal party to help cook and serve your food the day of. They would have already helped with everything else (and maybe they could help you prepare food the day before.. your salads and stuff), so I would give them a break! Just some thoughts, and hope this helps.

  6. riversconfluence says:

    First idea: try a compromise between the grill and the catered affair. Lot’s of restaurants do catering, or large order take outs. Get some menus and some prices, you might be glad to have some help. You don’t have to order the whole menu, we love the salad at one local place, everyone knows the place, and likes it. a friend showed up at a potluck school reunion with it. It was gone shortly after.
    Back in the day, a local chicken ast food catered, they had things on the catering menu not on the store menu. A full meal, with chicken, beef, two veggies, potatoes and rolls was $4-$5. You could just order what you want.
    Second idea:Check out local clubs and organizations, and check to see if a relative or close friend belongs to any of them. The local Knights of Columbus have their own catering service, you rent the hall for cheap due to the member’s belonging, then the menu is presented. $7 bucks each got my Dad’s retirement party catered. The moose, the elks, the VFW or american Legion Hall might have similar arrangements, check it out.
    Third idea: do the grill. It is your wedding, your budget, and if you want to stay in your budget, it is your business. Check out recipe sites for cheap but filling food ideas. Find a creative Macaroni salad recipe, you can put just about anything in macaroni salad that normally has mayo in it. Follow the tricks that the restaurant buffets use, they put out a lot of really cheap items, and a just few expensive ones.
    Take advantage of seasonal local foods, here, it is melon season, we just ended with peach season. Those items are cheap right now.

  7. Tricia R says:

    I think it’s a great idea except that I would be worried that the wedding party would get splattered with food cooking at the grills. You could get everyone chefs’ aprons. And include veggie burgers for the vegetarians.

  8. C says:

    I think you could do finger buffet food, british style. or the other thing i think which would be nice is doing an almost greek type theme, the family orientated side which is more about the occasion than the party. mismatched tableware etc is nice, See mama mia at the end. do a cold meat buffet too, I would suggest sandwiches, cold meats, mini savoury pastries, salads, coleslaws, fruits, etc. Buy things as and when you see them, I saved loads by getting ribbons and decorations for my wedding at the end of the summer season. Michaels is a good place for that.

  9. diamondcollector says:

    grilling for 110 people can be grueling.

    i would lighten your load by making brisket and pulled pork (to be put on buns) the day before. easily done in two electric 18-24 quart roaster oven. buns, pickles, onions, sauce, cole slaw, baked beans, tossed green salad. sweet and unsweet tea

    1/2 pound meat per person.

  10. jayne_ewing says:

    I guess it just depends on your culture and stuff.

    Friends of ours had the mains catered but then special friends brought the desserts.

    We saved a lot of money by having friends and family gifting us their time and talents. i.e. my family did all the food, a friend offered to decorate the venue as that is her thing, auntie did the cake, uncle did the photos, another auntie did flowers etc…

    We ourselves have waitered for friends, and they bought finger foods. Cost them about $200 dollars and because you have “waiters” serving the food, it doesn’t come across as “cheap”.

    The roast is a good idea. Getting it delivered already cooked is probably the best idea. It’s not as easy as it sounds to actually roast one yourself, and getting the timing right is difficult as well.

    Plus cutting it up really needs someone who knows what they are doing.

    Good luck. And remember that it’s your special day. At the end of the day, your wishes are what matters most.

    Have fun.

  11. Mrs Noel ♥6/19/2010♥ says:

    I TOTALLY have to second the hog roast! That’s what we’re doing. A friend is roasting the hog for us as our wedding gift, and we’re getting the rest of the food from GFS (Gordon Food Service, if you’re not familiar with it). We’re getting stuff for shredded chicken sandwiches (a few family members and friends don’t eat pork), plus baked beans, mashed potatoes and gravy, potato salad, macaroni salad, chips, pretzels, mints, nuts, punch stuff, green beans, and corn. PLus we’re getting all of our cups, plates, napkins, etc. there. My quote from GFS right now (wedding’s 9 mos away) is just under $750. To buy the hog and get it prepped for cooking is $300, so for food, we’ll have $1050 in it. (I know that sounds high, but before you think I’m way out of your price range, please consider that the amounts I’m looking at are for 250 guests.)

    As far as info on hog roasts, you basically need to know someone who does it. (Or a friend of a friend type situation.) Ask around. One of you or your FH’s buddies might have a hog roaster. If that doesn’t work, try placing an ad on craigslist. The thing with roasting a hog is that you can’t just put it on a charcoal grill. My friend that does it has a big drum grill that has a spittoon (i think that’s what it’s called…lol…the thing that rotates the hog). It’s powered by gas, and for a hog roast where the pork was done by 3, he was getting started on it at 6 in the morning. In all honesty, not to burst your bubble, but if you don’t know someone who already does it (or a friend of a friend thing), I’d honestly skip the hog roast.

  12. iloveweddings says:

    OK….I agree with the poster who said that there is a compromise between grilling hamburgers/hot dogs and a full scale catering.

    DON’T do the grilling. That will be a pain in the *** not only for you and your fiance, but the wedding party also. Do you want to be grilling in your dress? Doesn’t sound fun.

    I DO like the idea of a pig roast. OR….what about deep frying a bunch of turkeys? That is a good idea too. Have you ever deep fryed a turkey? Mmmm….they taste great!

    Another idea: I live in a small town where everyone has very casual wedding receptions and this is what we always do:

    Get a bunch of meats/cheese platters and serve with rolls (kind of like -make your own sandwiches). Order the meat/cheese platters from your local grocery store (or make them up yourself) and get a bunch of nice dinner rolls (order from the grocery store bakery). Put out mayo and mustand, etc.

    THEN, you and your family make up a bunch of salads (potato salad; pasta salad; jello salad, etc.) and serve that with the meat/cheese/rolls. Have some chips, pickles and olives and you are all set!

RSS feed for comments on this post. And trackBack URL.

Leave a Reply

planning a big, non expensive wedding lol need ideas!!?

October 26th, 2010

my fiance and i are having our wedding september 2010. we are very casual people, so its not going to be a fancy thing. garden style, on a family members lawn, groomsmen in khakhis and buttoned shirts, etc. We are inviting 110 people, most of whom will be there. we are also paying for it ourselves so we have been thinking of ways to be thrifty without looking like white trash. originally, we wanted olive garden to cater, but it would cost us like $1000 so we nixed that idea. Now we are thinking of having a bunch of grills from family members and having the wedding party, including bride and groom grilling burgers and hot dogs and chicken and stuff with lots of chips and dip on all tables. And the guests can just come up table by table and get what they want off the grills. We figure it will be relaxed, cheap dinner that gives everyone a chance to come up and see and say hi to us so we don’t miss anyone going table to table greeting guests.
I like it, he likes it, the wedding party might not be thrilled but hey they can switch out with someone if they want. lol I’m just kinda worried that the majority of people will just think we’re a bunch of cheap skates. trying not to spend over $500 on food and i know catering can be expensive and some people dont like whats served. What do you guys think? and any other suggestions for cheap massive quatities of food???
wow i joked once about having a pig roast, but we didn’t actually consider it. it sounds like a good idea, thank you!!! and if anyone knows a good website for information with pig roasts and related, I would love to check it out. again, thank you so much 🙂 🙂 🙂

12 Responses to “planning a big, non expensive wedding lol need ideas!!?”

  1. ♥Invisible Pink Unicorn♥ says:

    Why not look into doing a pig roast?

    You can get a 125# pig for around $350.00 or so then spend the rest on doing different salads, chips and dip etc..

    125# is a lot of pig and fits into your whole causal wedding theme!

    I wouldn’t do a pot luck; its in bad taste to ask your guests to bring a food dish – just my opinion

  2. Katie says:

    it’s your wedding, make it exactly how you want it, especially since you’re going to be paying for it. I think everyone understands that weddings aren’t cheap, and they won’t think any less of you for doing the whole thing your way. You could ask close family members and good friends to bring side dishes, like a pot luck type thing. You could also have some hamburger, chicken, or turkey barbecue sandwiches because you can make a lot ahead of time too.
    Congratulations and good luck planning your reception. :]

  3. britts says:

    i was going to say hog roast as well.. it super delish and ive never met a person who doesnt enjoy it!!!

    they feed alot, my sister in law had a decent sized wedding.. and they had plenty of food!!!

  4. Mommy in the making says:

    I think this is a great idea! I wouldn’t worry about what other people think, it’s your wedding. We are getting married July 2010 and inviting just as many people and we are being cheap ourselves. Now days you want to save as much money as you can 🙂 There’s nothing wrong with it. Our food will cost us for everyone rought $200 🙂 And that’s all that’s needed. We also have it set up to where people won’t even think it’s a cheap dinner, that it was actually catered. But I love your idea and think it’s wonderful!! Good luck with everything and congrats on the wedding!!!

  5. Kati says:

    Well I’m getting married in 3 weeks and this is what we are doing since we are paying for everything ourselves.
    We are having ham and turkey for sandwiches and we are getting dinner rolls instead of buns. Then we are having potato salad, coleslaw, and a pasta salad. We are also having fruit salad, bbq smokies, baked beans and plain potato chips! Some of my family is making the salads for me. I payed for most of the stuff for them (and some are just making it because they know we are paying for the wedding ourselves). And then I asked a few people to man the food for me. Just to keep it full and clean and stuff. Some are friends and some are family. You could always do pulled pork or beef for sandwiches.
    People won’t think your cheap skates, they will understand. Catering is expensive but you might be able to order some stuff from a store (Hy-Vee, Sam’s Club, Walmart, or something like that). And if it was me, I wouldn’t ask your bridal party to help cook and serve your food the day of. They would have already helped with everything else (and maybe they could help you prepare food the day before.. your salads and stuff), so I would give them a break! Just some thoughts, and hope this helps.

  6. riversconfluence says:

    First idea: try a compromise between the grill and the catered affair. Lot’s of restaurants do catering, or large order take outs. Get some menus and some prices, you might be glad to have some help. You don’t have to order the whole menu, we love the salad at one local place, everyone knows the place, and likes it. a friend showed up at a potluck school reunion with it. It was gone shortly after.
    Back in the day, a local chicken ast food catered, they had things on the catering menu not on the store menu. A full meal, with chicken, beef, two veggies, potatoes and rolls was $4-$5. You could just order what you want.
    Second idea:Check out local clubs and organizations, and check to see if a relative or close friend belongs to any of them. The local Knights of Columbus have their own catering service, you rent the hall for cheap due to the member’s belonging, then the menu is presented. $7 bucks each got my Dad’s retirement party catered. The moose, the elks, the VFW or american Legion Hall might have similar arrangements, check it out.
    Third idea: do the grill. It is your wedding, your budget, and if you want to stay in your budget, it is your business. Check out recipe sites for cheap but filling food ideas. Find a creative Macaroni salad recipe, you can put just about anything in macaroni salad that normally has mayo in it. Follow the tricks that the restaurant buffets use, they put out a lot of really cheap items, and a just few expensive ones.
    Take advantage of seasonal local foods, here, it is melon season, we just ended with peach season. Those items are cheap right now.

  7. Tricia R says:

    I think it’s a great idea except that I would be worried that the wedding party would get splattered with food cooking at the grills. You could get everyone chefs’ aprons. And include veggie burgers for the vegetarians.

  8. C says:

    I think you could do finger buffet food, british style. or the other thing i think which would be nice is doing an almost greek type theme, the family orientated side which is more about the occasion than the party. mismatched tableware etc is nice, See mama mia at the end. do a cold meat buffet too, I would suggest sandwiches, cold meats, mini savoury pastries, salads, coleslaws, fruits, etc. Buy things as and when you see them, I saved loads by getting ribbons and decorations for my wedding at the end of the summer season. Michaels is a good place for that.

  9. diamondcollector says:

    grilling for 110 people can be grueling.

    i would lighten your load by making brisket and pulled pork (to be put on buns) the day before. easily done in two electric 18-24 quart roaster oven. buns, pickles, onions, sauce, cole slaw, baked beans, tossed green salad. sweet and unsweet tea

    1/2 pound meat per person.

  10. jayne_ewing says:

    I guess it just depends on your culture and stuff.

    Friends of ours had the mains catered but then special friends brought the desserts.

    We saved a lot of money by having friends and family gifting us their time and talents. i.e. my family did all the food, a friend offered to decorate the venue as that is her thing, auntie did the cake, uncle did the photos, another auntie did flowers etc…

    We ourselves have waitered for friends, and they bought finger foods. Cost them about $200 dollars and because you have “waiters” serving the food, it doesn’t come across as “cheap”.

    The roast is a good idea. Getting it delivered already cooked is probably the best idea. It’s not as easy as it sounds to actually roast one yourself, and getting the timing right is difficult as well.

    Plus cutting it up really needs someone who knows what they are doing.

    Good luck. And remember that it’s your special day. At the end of the day, your wishes are what matters most.

    Have fun.

  11. Mrs Noel ♥6/19/2010♥ says:

    I TOTALLY have to second the hog roast! That’s what we’re doing. A friend is roasting the hog for us as our wedding gift, and we’re getting the rest of the food from GFS (Gordon Food Service, if you’re not familiar with it). We’re getting stuff for shredded chicken sandwiches (a few family members and friends don’t eat pork), plus baked beans, mashed potatoes and gravy, potato salad, macaroni salad, chips, pretzels, mints, nuts, punch stuff, green beans, and corn. PLus we’re getting all of our cups, plates, napkins, etc. there. My quote from GFS right now (wedding’s 9 mos away) is just under $750. To buy the hog and get it prepped for cooking is $300, so for food, we’ll have $1050 in it. (I know that sounds high, but before you think I’m way out of your price range, please consider that the amounts I’m looking at are for 250 guests.)

    As far as info on hog roasts, you basically need to know someone who does it. (Or a friend of a friend type situation.) Ask around. One of you or your FH’s buddies might have a hog roaster. If that doesn’t work, try placing an ad on craigslist. The thing with roasting a hog is that you can’t just put it on a charcoal grill. My friend that does it has a big drum grill that has a spittoon (i think that’s what it’s called…lol…the thing that rotates the hog). It’s powered by gas, and for a hog roast where the pork was done by 3, he was getting started on it at 6 in the morning. In all honesty, not to burst your bubble, but if you don’t know someone who already does it (or a friend of a friend thing), I’d honestly skip the hog roast.

  12. iloveweddings says:

    OK….I agree with the poster who said that there is a compromise between grilling hamburgers/hot dogs and a full scale catering.

    DON’T do the grilling. That will be a pain in the *** not only for you and your fiance, but the wedding party also. Do you want to be grilling in your dress? Doesn’t sound fun.

    I DO like the idea of a pig roast. OR….what about deep frying a bunch of turkeys? That is a good idea too. Have you ever deep fryed a turkey? Mmmm….they taste great!

    Another idea: I live in a small town where everyone has very casual wedding receptions and this is what we always do:

    Get a bunch of meats/cheese platters and serve with rolls (kind of like -make your own sandwiches). Order the meat/cheese platters from your local grocery store (or make them up yourself) and get a bunch of nice dinner rolls (order from the grocery store bakery). Put out mayo and mustand, etc.

    THEN, you and your family make up a bunch of salads (potato salad; pasta salad; jello salad, etc.) and serve that with the meat/cheese/rolls. Have some chips, pickles and olives and you are all set!

RSS feed for comments on this post. And trackBack URL.

Leave a Reply