My Big Fat Gay Wedding?

June 25th, 2011

I was at a wedding out of town over the weekend, and when i was there, my grandma and aunt kept saying “i cant wait until you get married so that we can do _________(like, a zillion examples)” and “I’ll help your fiancee pick out a nice dress!”. I felt like saying, “okay, but you might have trouble with the dress part…There won’t be a bride!”. I’m 16, gay, and obviously in the closet. When i danced with my mom, we laughed about it (their big plans lol). I was wondering, how big do you think a gay wedding can go without being “dis-tasteful” to alot of people? Like, would most people see a gay wedding of 300 guests too much? I’ve always wanted the big show, but the gay thing changes everything! I’m talking church service followed by nice reception. Also, how does the bridesmaid/groomsmen situation work? Do you have a mixture on both sides, or men on one side and women on the other if there are two grooms?

11 Responses to “My Big Fat Gay Wedding?”

  1. Jenn L says:

    i dont like fat ppl there all fat

  2. Katie N says:

    It would be your wedding, so it doesnt matter what the others find distasteful. If they don’t want to share your special day with you for that reason, I think they don’t deserve to be there anyway. Also, I think all the other details are up to you with the bridesmaids and grooms.

  3. Emily says:

    Its wateva you want its your wedding hav a good one ! enjoy it!Get your cake made by (Ace of Cakes) its a show

  4. Kristin says:

    You may kiss the… groom #2…

  5. Maggie says:

    I think gay marriage is so new that there really haven’t been any set trends yet. I think you should plan whatever makes the both of you comfortable and happy. Then, start your own business planning gay weddings.

  6. JAWS101spielberg says:

    Most of your questions should be consulted with your partner.. I am not that religious, and though i choosed not to be gay, or lesbian… whatever, i still find that you should do whatever your heart wants. (if that sounds corny, i didn’t mean it to) Because people have different tastes, it is very hard to say if 300 people is a big number for a gay marriage. I think you should do whatever you want. If you want to invite that many people. Than do it!

  7. Cait says:

    Your sexuality should not change how you plan your wedding. If you want a huge, extravagant wedding, go for it. If you’d prefer a small, private one, than that’s fine too. Let people decide for themselves if they want to come. I think in most traditional weddings the bride and groom’s family and friends each sit on opposite sides. I don’t think it should be any different for two groom’s. I say, do whatever YOU want to do, not what you think is appropriate.

  8. says:

    The bridesmaids and the groomsmen are going to be pretty hard to work out UNLESS you have girlfriends that can help to be a bridesmaids. Church service would be a pretty hard thing to do also because you’d need to know the churches policy.

  9. Emily S says:

    go for it. if youve always wanted a big wedding then have a big wedding. dont let the whole gay thing get in your way. if they ppl dont like that your gay then they wont come. then you know who your real friends are. and as for the bridesmaids/groomsmen, do whatever you want, it can be mixed, just have who you want on your side and who he wants on his side. ive been to weedings w/ girls w/ the grooms men and guys w/ the bridesmaids

  10. J. Boogie says:

    ahh the joys of the gay wedding. all the things you asked about are what make gay weddings so great. since they’re already considered non-traditional you can have as a big a wedding as you choose and when it comes to bridesmaids and groomsmen, you can totally mix it up on the two sides. i recently went to a wedding where the maid of honor was a gay man and it was fabulous.

    in fact, to a certain degree many people (depending on where you live, i’m in the bay area, pretty much the gay capital of america although atlanta’s giving it a run for its money) expect the large, fabulous, over the top type wedding from gay people. although it’s also somewhat dependent on what “type” of gay you are, flamboyant vs more low key.

    ultimately i think that your wedding should be totally true to you and your groom, or bride if that’s what he prefers to be called 😉 I’ve met a few male brides and they were all wonderful.

    the only downside is that not too many churches are keen on the gay marriage issue, which is very unfortunate. unless it’s a church similar to glide memorial which doesn’t discriminate based on race, sexuality or religion.

    I included a link for glide memorial in case you’ve never heard of it.

    hope I helped!

  11. Starlingmama says:

    My opinion is that you should do whatever you and your fiance want. Why care if you offend someone? Do it up as big as you like or privately if you prefer that. Marriage is supposed to be a one time deal so you call the shots. You could have men in drag if you want or you can tone it down and have a quiet wedding. I’m glad your mom is supportive. That’s cool.

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