How can we cover our share if they won’t give us information?

July 3rd, 2011

My stepson is having a destination wedding (near his mom). If the groom’s family is suppose to “host” the rehearsal dinner, how are we supposed to pick a place from a distance or help out with plans when the groom will not share any information about the event?

9 Responses to “How can we cover our share if they won’t give us information?”

  1. Beckie says:

    just confront him. Ask him where you should plan the rehearsal dinner.

    Why would he hide that information from you on purpose? Its not something that should be kept secret. Just ask.

  2. Liz says:

    This is the 21st century, not the 1950s. Couples getting married pay for their own shindig these days.

  3. double d debbie says:

    Have you asked?

  4. lmartinez says:

    give them one of two choices
    1.tell you what you need to kno
    2.pay for it there self
    im sure they will tell you

  5. Vibiana says:

    Tell him since he won’t provide you with what you need to know, he can pay for the rehearsal dinner himself.

  6. La Vie Boheme says:

    Maybe he doesn’t expect you to host anything. This is the 21st century, the days of many old traditions are all but gone. Many couples pay for their own weddings now.

  7. Perse says:

    You can’t….so don’t.

  8. Ashley D says:

    It’s 2011. The only people who HAVE to host anything are the bride and groom.

  9. truefirstedition says:

    I would simply say, “We’d like to contribute to the rehearsal dinner and the budget we were thinking is around X dollars. Since we’re not familiar with the area, how about you and Bride pick a restaurant and send us the details, so we can set it up?”

    And if he doesn’t pick a restaurant or send you any details, then you’re off the hook. He’s an adult, it’s not your job to plan his wedding events. If he’s not sharing information, then he clearly doesn’t want your help that badly.

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