Can a pregnant woman get married in a catholic church?

July 8th, 2011

My Fiance are planning on getting married and now I think I might be pregnant. I am not to sure. I want to have a small wedding in the chapel not because of the baby but for money

11 Responses to “Can a pregnant woman get married in a catholic church?”

  1. Me says:

    talk to your priest.

    I don’t see why it should be an issue as long as you promise to raise the child as a catholic, but it is up to the priest.

  2. puzzled says:

    Yes you can, even though the Church frowns about sex before marriage
    Just remember that there is more than one Catholic Church and each Church, though the same Religion, has different views. They won’t turn you away and should not turn you away!

    My fiance is pregnant can we stil get married in the catholic church? | Answerbag

    COAT of shadows on July 18th, 2008
    Yes, my friend got married in the Catholic church and was six months pregnant, they also christened their first child at the same time,it was great!

  3. iloveweddings says:

    Yes, you can and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Speak with your priest.

  4. tickled pink or blue baby #2 says:

    really depends on the church and the priest and their policies.

    when i got married, the priest made it a point to ask over and over again if i was pregnant or not. (i wasnt) it was actually rude.

    a lot of them will not marry you if you are pregnant.

    take a test!

  5. ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ says:

    Sweetie, Trust me on this…. Thousands and Thousands, and Thousand of young ladies have married in the catholic church while pregnant.

  6. EN says:

    Catholics believe that sex before marriage is a sin. You can’t get married in the state of mortal sin (which premarital sex falls under) but once you confess your sin(s) you are starting over with a clean slate. Premarital sex doesn’t kick you out of the church but if you die with it on your soul you can go to hell.

  7. Daver says:

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    Yes, but you’ve certainly got something to confess BEFORE getting married.

    < but for money>>

    Two hundred dollars is too expensive?
    You must mean the reception that comes after the wedding is “too expensive”.

  8. Doodlestuff says:

    Talk to the priest. In the US, most diocese will not permit a wedding in the chapel any longer. A mass is expected. Some priests will not marry a woman who is obviously pregnant and one has to wonder at that. They shuffled known pedophiles from parish to parish, but an obviously pregnant woman isn’t allowed to get married? Things that make you go hmmm.

  9. Kelly says:

    It will depend on the diocese and parish, usually they will but some may tell you no. What they usually offer in place is to tell you to marry elsewhere, then a year later they will bless the marriage.

    Talk to your priest or one of his associates, it really will depend on the policies of your Diocese and Parish, they can really differ in different areas.

    When my brother got married, his wife was Catholic and pregnant, they told her no. But that if they married elsewhere a year later they would bless the marriage, and that they did.

    The wedding itself isn’t all that expensive – the reception is.

  10. Laura and Ed says:

    It will depend on your diocese and the priest.

    In my diocese (and a few others I know of), a priest will not wed a couple until at least a year has passed since the birth of the baby. Marriage is a serious commitment in the eyes of the Catholic church (it’s a sacrament). The Catholic church believes that the couple shouldn’t have any other pressures to marry other than a commitment to each other. A baby is considered a pressure to get married.

    There can be extenuating circumstances, though. For example, a couple my husband and I were working with found out they were pregnant after they had already started marriage preparations. After talking it over with the priest and bishop, the couple were able to marry within the Church even though the bride was obviously pregnant on her wedding day.

    I know of another couple who got married sooner than expected because they discovered the bride’s father had a life-threatening disease. The bishop and priest discussed it with the couple and allowed the couple to marry in the father’s hospital room (another Catholic no-no) even though she was pregnant. The father-of-the-bride died a few days after the birth of his grandson.

    If you’ve already begun marriage preparation classes, you have a better chance of persuading your priest and bishop that the baby is not causing you to be pressured into getting married.

    You could marry outside the Church (JP perhaps) and then later return to the Church to have your marriage “blessed” (receive Canonical Dispensation for a marriage which began outside the Church.) In my diocese, it’s relatively easy to receive convalidation of marriage although you still have to attend a marriage preparation program.

  11. Lydia says:

    As some others have said, it may depend upon your parish/diocese.

    In my parish, it’s a big yes – since the child is deemed innocent; s/he hasn’t committed any wrongdoing. You will have to take a course, though – and sometimes that might be a time conflict, but usually may be able to do it in another parish, or do a weekend engaged encounter.

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