Has anyone experienced a spouse or BF/GF who has a sexual addition? I am wondering how to approach the topic with my fiancee. We and our 3 children (from previous marriages) all live together and a wedding is planned for next year. However, I have found online profiles on sexually explicit sites, swing and dating sites, pictures of his penis online, porno stuff and videos at the house, IM chats and phone calls to girls who advertise themselves on places like craigslist, and adult channel history on the tv and computer. I have discovered all of this in only the last 6 months. I have suggested counseling but he is very opposed to it and keeps backing out for “work reasons”. I understand this is humiliating and embarrassing to him but we need this to repair our relationship. A lot of damage has been done by his choice to participate and be active in all this. He claims to have never slept with anyone else. I believe, more than he is flat out cheating on me for the thrill, that he has a sexual addiction. I have tried to re-sparke our sex life, buying sexy things and initiating sex more often, but after coninuing to find things, it seems it doesn’t matter what I do. He’s doing his thing anyway. He tells me he loves me and that these actions are like a different person. But then how can someone love you and still do things they know are wrong and hurtful? It reminds me of an alcoholic. Any advice on what to do to help him and us before he does something that makes me call it all off?