Wedding Planning & Religion Bind?

April 14th, 2010

Me and my husband are already legally married. I’m 19, he’s turning 21. I know age…but thats not my issue. My issue is both of our families are different, with race & religion. I grew up in a pegan household, while he grew up in a hispanic catholic household. I know how to plan Pagan weddings its fun, simple and easy, the only issue is the Catholic one. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do or where to start. The other issue is I’m worried about what my grandfather, who I’m really close to, will have to say about his family, since most of them still live in mexico or are here illegally. My grandfather is well an old fashion cowboy so I’m really worried. What should I do with the planning? & Is there anything I can do about my grandfather cuz I do want him to be there?

2 Responses to “Wedding Planning & Religion Bind?”

  1. LKB says:

    I wouldn’t worry too much about your families differences. My sister married someone of a totally different religion and my family and his were very supportive and each family had the chance to put their customs into the ceremony. As far as your grandfather, you said you are really close and you know he really loves you, so I am sure all he wants is for you to be happy. You could just have a one-on-one talk with him about how you are feeling and see how he is feeling and just let him know where you are coming from. I am sure everything will work out and you will have a great wedding.

  2. Sofia says:

    1) Religion:
    My fathers family is hispanic and catholic. I hope you realize that the church will not be very enthuisiastic about even the word “pagan”. My suggestion is to go meet with the priest. Technically your marriage just needs to be blessed in the church and observed by like 2 or 3 people, however most catholic churches require that you attend marriage counseling classes before they bless the marriage. I highly recommend that you discuss with your husband how his family will feel about the pagan part of the wedding. Most hispanic families put a lot into a catholic wedding. I personally have never seen such parties even at family reunions.
    2) Grandfather:
    My mothers family wasnt to excited about my father either so they eloped. 🙂 I just thought you might need a smile. I recommend you talking to your parents about how you can make him feel more comfortable. Let him know how important it is to you and how much you love him. He will get over the immigration or whatever. Just tell him they are honest hard working people. Whenever people talk about my fathers family I always put them in the position of illegal immigrants. If he really is a cowboy he should respect the hard work they do.

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