Should I bring a female friend to bible study or worship service?

March 26th, 2010

I’m a guy, 25, and I have a female friend that will be staying with me for almost a week. Me and her went to high school together, and have kept in touch off and on throughout our college lives (we went to separate colleges). WE ARE NOT SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO EACH OTHER, in fact, we often annoy each other on the phone. However I have moved away from our home town temporarily, and she is coming to my town for a conference this week. I have allowed her to crash in my place during the week (I have a nice apartment with a loft area. She can sleep in my queen size bed, I plan to sleep on one of my nice comfty couches).

As a new Christian, I go to bible study every Wednesday and Church on Sunday. But I feel that bringing her around my Church family is like bringing her around my biological family, and so the Church people will think we are together, or start gossiping!

I’m thinking that while she is in town this week from Wednesday until next Tuesday, to go to bible study on Wed without her…and then on Sunday, bring her to Church but sit in the back in a different area and then leave immediately after the service to avoid as many nosy Christian brothers and sisters as possible.

There is also a Singles Ministry meeting on Friday at someones home in my church that I want to attend, but I don’t want to bring her because me and her aren’t together and I don’t want people to to think that or ask any other stupid questions. The girl is more like a sister. So I am thinking about leaving her behind for this too. I’m not trying to “hide” her, but me and her don’t even talk that much and I just don’t want folks seeing us together and Church events and thinking we are together. Besides, there are too many attractive girls in my church that may be wifey material, and my friend is not!

Is this a good idea, or does anyone else have other advice?
Surprise! Now she’s bringing one of her female friends along at the last minute. So know I have two girls staying with me now. Really fellas…this isn’t the fantasy some of you are thinking about. She’s like an annoying sister, not one of those “FWBs”. Oh well.

13 Responses to “Should I bring a female friend to bible study or worship service?”

  1. Nero says:

    I think you guys should just get laid.

  2. ANTI-DISNEY CHANNEL says:

    no…because christians will criticize her

  3. pb&j says:

    ask her. maybe she won’t wanna go, and you’ll be worrying about nothing.

  4. Karenita EWTN ((Allecat)) says:

    invite her to all the events and if she wants to go be glad to take her. don’t worry about what others think of you. only care about what you think of yourself and your friend.

  5. midnitepoets says:

    Ask her what she wants to do, explain the situation, if she goes, portray her as a visiting friend, which she is.

  6. sdb deacon says:

    Go to the services you normally attend, and she may go with you if she wants. Let the people think what they think, but answer all questions honestly. There’s no reason to do otherwise.

  7. veeeeee. says:

    take her along, but MAKE SURE
    you both have on t-shirts that
    say “i am not romantically linked
    to this person”. just to make it clear.

  8. Pamela V says:

    Sure, take her and introduce her. I am sure that there would be more people who would understand than you may think. Men and women can be friends. She may even meet a nice man from your church. As a Christian I am sure you would want her to know the joy of the Lord a you do.

  9. JnC says:

    Okay seriously. You should want to bring her to church so she can see as your friend your relationship with God and it would benefit her to find a relationship with God or further her’s.
    People are not dumb, they can pick up on just friends or if your in a relationship. If they get the wrong impression who cares, your friendship and your relationship with God are far more important.

  10. keezymama says:

    1) ask her f she would like to go and abide by her wishes.
    2) introduce her as a friend that is visiting you from out of town.
    3) be up front about the nature of your relationship gossip accrues wen people have to guess or speculate about something. you can off set some of the gossip letting people see you interact as friends rather han a a couple. Word ill get around that you have female company –
    If she would prefer to go then if the issue is raised you can honestly answer “she preferred not to come to church with me -we are just friends” or if she is there and you thing people may have the wrong idea as to what she is doing visiting a male friend joke about ow it is a good thing she won’t be in town too much longer as it will be nice to have your own bed back.

  11. chanel says:

    Not if you want to see her again.

  12. swuzzie says:

    Your putting way too much thought into this, she is your friend and people are think what they want. Would you act this way if she was a guy, then be worried that people might think your gay… think about that.

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Should I bring a female friend to bible study or worship service?

March 26th, 2010

I’m a guy, 25, and I have a female friend that will be staying with me for almost a week. Me and her went to high school together, and have kept in touch off and on throughout our college lives (we went to separate colleges). WE ARE NOT SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO EACH OTHER, in fact, we often annoy each other on the phone. However I have moved away from our home town temporarily, and she is coming to my town for a conference this week. I have allowed her to crash in my place during the week (I have a nice apartment with a loft area. She can sleep in my queen size bed, I plan to sleep on one of my nice comfty couches).

As a new Christian, I go to bible study every Wednesday and Church on Sunday. But I feel that bringing her around my Church family is like bringing her around my biological family, and so the Church people will think we are together, or start gossiping!

I’m thinking that while she is in town this week from Wednesday until next Tuesday, to go to bible study on Wed without her…and then on Sunday, bring her to Church but sit in the back in a different area and then leave immediately after the service to avoid as many nosy Christian brothers and sisters as possible.

There is also a Singles Ministry meeting on Friday at someones home in my church that I want to attend, but I don’t want to bring her because me and her aren’t together and I don’t want people to to think that or ask any other stupid questions. The girl is more like a sister. So I am thinking about leaving her behind for this too. I’m not trying to “hide” her, but me and her don’t even talk that much and I just don’t want folks seeing us together and Church events and thinking we are together. Besides, there are too many attractive girls in my church that may be wifey material, and my friend is not!

Is this a good idea, or does anyone else have other advice?
Surprise! Now she’s bringing one of her female friends along at the last minute. So know I have two girls staying with me now. Really fellas…this isn’t the fantasy some of you are thinking about. She’s like an annoying sister, not one of those “FWBs”. Oh well.

13 Responses to “Should I bring a female friend to bible study or worship service?”

  1. Nero says:

    I think you guys should just get laid.

  2. ANTI-DISNEY CHANNEL says:

    no…because christians will criticize her

  3. pb&j says:

    ask her. maybe she won’t wanna go, and you’ll be worrying about nothing.

  4. Karenita EWTN ((Allecat)) says:

    invite her to all the events and if she wants to go be glad to take her. don’t worry about what others think of you. only care about what you think of yourself and your friend.

  5. midnitepoets says:

    Ask her what she wants to do, explain the situation, if she goes, portray her as a visiting friend, which she is.

  6. sdb deacon says:

    Go to the services you normally attend, and she may go with you if she wants. Let the people think what they think, but answer all questions honestly. There’s no reason to do otherwise.

  7. veeeeee. says:

    take her along, but MAKE SURE
    you both have on t-shirts that
    say “i am not romantically linked
    to this person”. just to make it clear.

  8. Pamela V says:

    Sure, take her and introduce her. I am sure that there would be more people who would understand than you may think. Men and women can be friends. She may even meet a nice man from your church. As a Christian I am sure you would want her to know the joy of the Lord a you do.

  9. JnC says:

    Okay seriously. You should want to bring her to church so she can see as your friend your relationship with God and it would benefit her to find a relationship with God or further her’s.
    People are not dumb, they can pick up on just friends or if your in a relationship. If they get the wrong impression who cares, your friendship and your relationship with God are far more important.

  10. keezymama says:

    1) ask her f she would like to go and abide by her wishes.
    2) introduce her as a friend that is visiting you from out of town.
    3) be up front about the nature of your relationship gossip accrues wen people have to guess or speculate about something. you can off set some of the gossip letting people see you interact as friends rather han a a couple. Word ill get around that you have female company –
    If she would prefer to go then if the issue is raised you can honestly answer “she preferred not to come to church with me -we are just friends” or if she is there and you thing people may have the wrong idea as to what she is doing visiting a male friend joke about ow it is a good thing she won’t be in town too much longer as it will be nice to have your own bed back.

  11. chanel says:

    Not if you want to see her again.

  12. swuzzie says:

    Your putting way too much thought into this, she is your friend and people are think what they want. Would you act this way if she was a guy, then be worried that people might think your gay… think about that.

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