planning the wedding is making me freak out…?

April 20th, 2010

I want to elope!!! (but *sigh* it’s not going to happen…) I don’t really have a question other than- HOW do you keep from losing your mind?? I’m not a “bride-zilla”…the tiny details aren’t freaking me out…budget makes me nervous, but we can do it…most importantly the future SPOUSE is something I’m not worried about at all :+)

I’m just overwhelmed by all of the details…hotels..decorations…dress…rings…family crap(!!!)…I do NOT want these things to get in the way of us enjoying our day….any words of advice???

(or you can just talk me off of the ledge :+)
and it’s “family crap”…lol…I didn’t mean the dress

10 Responses to “planning the wedding is making me freak out…?”

  1. jlunchbox says:

    My best advice is to just pick something, book it and call it done. Don’t go back and forth on what the flowers should look like, blah blah blah, just do it and it will turn out fine!!!

    I felt a lot better about the wedding when I just booked things and never looked back.

  2. Diane B says:

    Get in your mind what you want and request your bridal party’s assistance in helping you accomplish your chores. This will take some of the pressure off of you, especially if you know they will follow thru.

    I have said it before and I’ll say it again, stop stressing. When the big day gets here, no one is going to be looking at anything but you and the man you love. Stop going through all the little details and enjoy this time. It will be gone in nothing flat.

  3. Bethe W says:

    My suggestion is specifically how to handle family crap. If you have family members who are getting overly opinionated ( and lord knows we have all had them) give them jobs to do. For example pick out what type of cake you want and then get them to go to several places and price the cakes. Get someone else to go on expedia.com and price hotels. Basically anyone who has an opinion give them a job to do. This will take some pressure off you and also make them feel important and keep them out of your hair for a while.

  4. XxRaDiAnTxTrAgEdYxX says:

    Tell your family to back off. You appreciate their help, but you want time to get your thoughts organized. Step back, breathe, and remember WHY you are getting married! There is no reason for the planning of an important day to stress you out! If it is, and if you have the money in your budget, get someone else to plan it with you. That will alleviate the stress and if your families cannot accept that, you will have to find a way to deal with them.

    Let them KNOW that they are driving you crazy.

  5. video production says:

    Yep, that is why I decided to go to the justice of the peace and call it a day…I might have a reception in a year or two..lol..strange I know.

  6. elissa1017 says:

    I totally know how you feel! Trust me when I say you are not alone in this! Planning a wedding is a very emotional experience. Some of your stress is probably coming from nerves. whether you realize it or not. I have felt exactly the same way you have but just keep one thing in mind. This is your big day but it is only the first day of the rest of your life woth your future spouse. Don’t sweat the small stuff as I can assure you things will always go wrong. Just keep yourself as organized as you can and if you feel like you are going to blow, take a step back and remember what the day is about! If you need to vent, vent to your future spouse. It’s amazing how helpful they can be when they think you are going to go nuts! Congrats on the wedding, I am sure it will be everything you hope for 🙂

  7. bbbarra says:

    A wedding planner, whether they are a professional or family or friend who is good at it can help out alot. It usually works best if they are not emotionally tied to the wedding or you though. That way their opinion is unbiased and is based on the decision itself. I do agree with Bethe… though that the best way to cool off a meddling relative is to give them a job to do!

    best wishes………………..

  8. eternalmask0201 says:

    Maybe you should look into getting a wedding planner.

    Wedding planners can assist you with every aspect of planning your wedding. Planners advise and help you orchestrate your wedding to make it a memorable and unique experience.

    Budget
    A planner will help you establish a realistic budget to match your dreams and desires of your event.

    Stress Free Planning
    Hiring a planner will save you time and stress in planning and executing your event. They will handle all of the details so you don’t have to, all you have to do is enjoy your event!

    Good Luck and Happy Planning!!!

  9. Mrs. Arnold says:

    do something for yourself….I know something that helped me was…I went tanning….I dont normally tan, and it was partially for the wedding, but to me it was just really relaxing every few days to go lay down, with no responsibilities for about 20 min.

    Maybe you already tan, maybe you dont want to tan, but find soemthing relaxing that doesnt take up too much time, that will help you forget about everything, just for a little bit.

  10. lilly v says:

    I think you have a great attitude just try not to let other peoples nerves get on yours and if you don’t feel like spending money on something don’t its you r day

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